From the moment we are born, the programming and conditioning begins.
We are programmed and conditioned by our parents and extended family members and we have absolutely no control over that.
Some of us are lucky enough to be programmed and conditioned by people who have done the difficult work of growing from the inside out, some of us have not been so lucky. Either way, programming our own minds as an adult is completely up to us.
Some of us choose to ignore that fact that we need to grow and evolve and some of us build the courage, drive and determination to re programme our own minds.
Some of us choose to run and hide from our demons and others choose to face them head on. Both are difficult to do but only one will help you live your best life living up to your fullest potential.
My advice to people who are ready to start doing the difficult work of growing from the inside out is ask yourself these three questions.
At first they seem confusing. They may or may not make sense but it's up to you to make sense of them. The beautiful thing about the answers to these questions is no two people will ever have the same answers. Your answers will be completely unique to you and are not wrong. You may even choose to tweak the answers over time as you begin to grow more rapidly. If you can't find the answers to these three questions, then maybe it's time to look for someone who is able to help. A true professional, a master of their craft. Someone 'qualified" to help and may I suggest this. Always work with people who have been where you're going. If someone hasn't done the difficult work themselves, I'd avoid them like the plague.
The three questions are
1. 𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪?
Don't say your name because that's not who you are.
Your parents gave those to you.
Who are you, what are your values, principles and standards?
2. 𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙙𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩?
What do YOU want?
It's not about living life through other people's expectations, it's a question you need to be asking yourself.
3. 𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙜𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜?
What's guiding you?
Do you have a purpose?
Do you have hopes, dreams, goals and ambitions?
If not, why not?
Like I said, they are not easy questions to answer. It took me quite a few years to truly understand what the answers to these questions are. You will probably figure it out quicker than me, I'm certainly not the sharpest tool in the shed and I am one stubborn motherfucker.