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Be Anything But Nice - RAMMFIT

Be Anything But Nice - RAMMFIT

Nice guys finish last. I'm not trying to be offensive but if you're offended by that, then this message is for you.

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Society doesn't care about nice guys. Nice guys can't do anything except get eaten. Nice guys get take advantage of. They can't tell the difference between friend or foe and sooner or later, they're going to be conned. Nice guys are easily manipulated and often put the needs of others before their own, which is okay in certain scenarios, but not all the time. Men who suffer from the "nice guy syndrome" think that the only way to be accepted by the herd is to trade their uniqueness for approval and sooner or later it will lead to some form of depression. Why? Well they're wearing a mask 24/7 and ask anyone who has been there and done that, you soon grow tired of it and something has to give.

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Nice guys think being nice and being kind are the same. They're not, they're two very different things. Kindness showing compassion and it takes a great man to show compassion and empathy. Kindness is being kind to humans and animals, never expecting anything in return. Being nice is seeking validation and approval. It's insecurity and it's showing a lack of self esteem.

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When it comes to dating, nice guys usually get stuck in the friend zone because as I said earlier, they're easily manipulated and conned, so they'll be used by a weak woman. A strong woman wouldn't bother, she's got better things to do than be reliant on a nice guy. She wants a strong man to lead and nice guys just don't have it in them to do that. Women don't respect nice guys because they're usually yes men and that turns a strong woman off.

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In short, be anything but nice. Be assertive, be strong, be dangerous, be kind and be a risk taker. Just don't be nice. You'll pay a heavy price sooner or later and that won't be good for your self esteem, your confidence and you could end up paying the price financially because as I said earlier, nice guys are easily conned.

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How do you stop being a nice guy? Reclaim your masculinity by using your masculine energy. Take up Kyokushin Karate. Go to the gym and lift heavy things. Sweat it out. Take part in some hard, physical activity two to three times a week and network with other men doing the same. Do some hard, physical labour around the yard. Build shit or if you don't know how, learn how to build shit. Release that masculine energy and build something you can be proud of. Get your hands in the dirt and work up a decent sweat.

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Another way to stop being a nice guy or a yes man is to say no and mean it. Mean what you say and say what you mean. No is a complete sentence you know so start practicing. It's ok to disappoint people if you don't have the time or energy levels to do something. It's ok to stop living your life through other people's expectations. It's ok to chase your own hopes, dreams, goals and ambitions and the best part is, you don't need permission to do it. It's ok to say no to overtime and spend it doing the things that make you come alive.

It's ok to say no and spend time designing and creating the life you truly desire.

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