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Dabbling is the Poor Man's Discipline - RAMMFIT

Dabbling is the Poor Man's Discipline - RAMMFIT

A lot of men dabble in life and wonder why they're unhappy.

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They're unhappy because there's no real purpose, there's no goal setting, there's no direction and they don't really know who they are and what they're capable of. They're constantly being distracted by cheap and/ fake women, meaningless conversations and events, partying, gambling and living life through other people's expectations.

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A lot of men start something and never finish. They dabble because they're easily distracted by the next flavour of the month, a new shiny object that takes their attention. I see a lot of men, and women for that matter, come through the doors of our Kyokushin Karate dojo and after they either get a vague idea of the basics or they plateau at novice, they quit. Most of the time it's because the real work starts and they need to level up, in other words, they quit at the first sign of hardship. In saying that I don't blame people for leaving. I take ownership of every situation because I didn't do enough to make them want to stay. I didn't provide value. The other side of the coin is though, as a professional karate instructor, you can't spend time motivating people either. If the internal drive isn't there, nothing you do will make them want to stay. I can safely say in most cases, it's the fact that working for something is too hard for a lot of people. Earning it and taking the long road is what turns a lot of men off.

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Those same people spend their whole lives doing it. It's got nothing to do with the fact they can't do it or they're not strong enough, it's because they dabble and the easy option is to quit and try something else. The world is full of coaches, mentors, gurus who offer you "the secret" to success. There will always be a market for it too I imagine. It's an easy temptation, taking the short cut, looking sharp, but never doing the work. The truth is there's no depth and the real players can spot it a mile off. You're only fooling yourself.

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If you want to be happy, stop dabbling. Stop looking for the easy road or the secret hack. The are none. It doesn't matter what worthwhile endeavour it is, be in it for the long haul, play the long game. Having passion and purpose is not only good for the soul and good for our confidence and self esteem, it makes you more attractive and it earns respect from your friends, colleagues, and associates. They know you keep your word and you follow through with what you said you were going to do. You radiate success and in turn, you attract it. You become a beacon to other specialists and experts who know what they're doing and where they're going. By giving up the dabblers mentality you start attracting a better quality of people. You inspire people. You lift people up and start developing the qualities of a leader. why? Because people align with you and what you stand for. They like the way you think and you become a man of depth, a man with integrity. 

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