I can remember many years ago, there was a woman in a local news agency where I used to buy my motorcycle magazines, and she was stunning.
I went in there to buy everything from chewing gum to magazines I didn’t even want to read just to be served by her.
Half the time I was served by someone else because I timed it wrong, wasting ten of fifteen dollars in the process.

One day, I built up the courage to talk to her and not only was I rejected (nicely), but I completely fucked it up.
I can’t even remember what I said, I just remember thinking to myself that was the worst day of my life.
I had one chance to impress the lady, and it didn’t work and back then, I had no idea how to play the game of seduction.
That’s another post for another day but first, let me tell you how I recovered.

It’s never easy being rejected, especially when we’re crushing hard.
The key to it is knowing that we’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea no matter how hard we try.
They might not like the fact we’re bald or we’re short, we’re too hairy or not hairy enough.
Maybe they don’t like the way we present ourselves to the world or even our style (or lack of it).
Whatever it is, people have the right to not be interested in us in the same way other people don’t particularly do it for us, and we need to be okay with it.

It’s inevitable.
You’re going to experience rejection at some point whether is for a job, asking someone out or trying to connect with someone in the business world.
It isn’t nice, but the truth is, it happens, and you’ll probably experience it more than once in your lifetime.

When it comes to being rejected by a woman, we need to take it on the chin and not be abusive.
I’ve heard some horror stories of men doing this and all it does is destroy any hope that she was even remotely interested.
Not being able to handle rejection is anti-seductive.
You’ll also destroy any hope of at least making a contact and who knows what doors that will open for you.

Always do your best to keep your reputation intact.
The worst thing you can be is someone no one wants to know and being abusive is one way they’ll remember you for all the wrong reasons.
People never forget how you made them feel, remember that.

The way in which we handle being rejected can often mean that that person respects us enough to say hello when they see us out and about again.
The more desperate we look when this happens, the less chance we have of other doors opening for us.

Maybe she was just testing you, as women do and handling it like a masculine man would, could be the sign she was looking for.
If you cross paths again, don’t be desperate, always be the first to walk away from her like you don’t care.
Keep it short; the more you try and keep her engaged, the more desperate you look and again, desperation is anti-seductive.
Keep it short and sweet and always leave wishing her the best, it shows strength of character.
Learn from the experience because it will make you stronger and wiser.
Sometimes in life we just have to walk the path and put it down to experience, this will be one of them.

If you’re worried about what to say to a woman when you approach her, start by doing this.
Practice starting conversations with complete strangers, men and women.
The more you do this, the more comfortable you’ll be approaching a woman and asking her out.
It’s like anything difficult; the more practice you get, the more confident you will be.
When you develop social skills like this, you’ll be surprised how things change in all areas of life.

The point is, you’ll be more comfortable starting a conversation with her because you do it all the time.
Remember, the key is not to be desperate.
Be yourself, be positive and be happy.
Be genuine and direct your energy outward, being interested in them.
No wants to hear you talk about yourself (although this is often done because we are nervous) and no one likes to hear your problems, they’re too busy dealing with their own.

I hope you find this of value, my brothers.

Keep winning!