It’s more important to be polarising than neutralising.
Polarising people, forming two distinct groups, takes courage. Polarising people are those who disrupt the status quo. They’re inherently divisive, often hated and loved in equal measure. They're not upset by that either. That's why they do it. It's part of a master plan. Never underestimate them.
Socially, polarising can act as an invaluable filter - distancing you from people you wouldn’t, or don’t, get along with, bringing you closer to those who lift you up, those who motivate, energise and inspire you and make you happy. It sorts the men from the boys, the lions from the rabbits. It makes the right people take notice because your words will either offend a weak mind or attract a strong one. Again, that's the whole point of it.
Ruffling feathers, rattling cages, poking the bear, is not for everyone because it gets you attention. It makes people sit up and take notice. They want to know who has the balls to do what you're doing.
I find in the work place, you will either upset an employer or get you the attention you deserve. It’s usually the latter. It helps you stand out from the crowd.
Not only that, you will become an asset to any employer because you're not afraid to getthe ball rolling and make change happen, quickly. You want action and want shit sorted now. Not tomorrow, not next week, today.
Polarising people, in my experience, are usually competitive people too.
They’re quick to sort the productive, go getters from the lazy and inspired.
In other words, the dead wood.
Polarising people make change happen, usually very quickly because they can unsettle people and make them restless, even nervous. They force the hand. Their charm, charisma and confidence can lure followers based on their emotional appeal alone. Every body admires the bold, no one admires the weak and timid. This is why it's a good idea to polarise rather than nuetralise. You're revealing your people and they will begin to gravitate. You need people around you to win, achieve and succeed. You need the right people around you to win, achieve and suceed and polarising people will help you sort through the riff raff.
Polarising people tend to be more decisive too. They know who they are, they know what their values and beliefs are and they're not afraid to navigate uncertainty, risk and the unknown. Things that most people shy away from. For better or worse, their moral compass is firmly pointed in one direction and they rarely, if ever, deviate.
Polarising and decisive people rise above average and they give themselves every opportunity to succeed, quicker, because they stand out. They demand respect and either way they get it, regardless of whether people like them or not.
"You only get the respect you demand"