Three Things a Man Must Possess - RAMMFIT

Three Things a Man Must Possess - RAMMFIT

I have learned, through trial and error, that some of the most powerful tools a man can possess is confidence, self esteem and emotional intelligence.
The third one was one of the hardest for me to get a grip on because I am someone who doesn't take any shit from anyone and I am not afraid of confrontation.

I used to fire up the moment anyone tried to put one over me or try to pull the wool over my eyes.

I was especially wary of employers who violated the rights of their employees, especially mine.


Confidence and self esteem is difficult to build and improve. Not because we can't do it, but because it requires a man to do things worthy of esteem. They must commit and stop dabbling in every flavour of the month that comes around. There are too many men that love chasing shiny new objects, following the crowd, then wonder why they are unhappy and lack in confidence and self esteem. Then they have the audacity to blame their own unhappiness and depression on mental health issues. The truth is, they lack the courage, drive and determination to build and improve their levels of confidence and self esteem.

We build and improve confidence and self esteem through accomplishment, doing things we once thought we were incapable of doing. That can be anything from overcoming fears to overcoming hardship and adversity. In a nutshell, we must experience the pain of personal growth if we wish to build confidence and self esteem. There is no other way. Running from it only stops us from living up to our true and fullest potential.

If you want to build and improve your levels of confidence and self esteem, play the long game, take the long road and seek mastery of your art of craft. 


What is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is defined as the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as recognize and influence the emotions of those around you. Emotional intelligence can be equally difficult to improve. It requires us to be self aware. Being aware of what triggers us and equally, what makes us happy. It's about knowing who we are and what we are willing to tolerate or eliminate.  It describes your ability to not only understand your strengths and weaknesses, but to recognize your emotions and whether or not you can control how and when you choose to respond to things that may offend you or make you angry. Equally, it's also how you choose to respond to things that make you happy. Being self aware is about how you bring out the best in you and the people around you. Do you bring out the best in them?

Working on our emotional intelligence means we have to do the difficult work of growing from the inside. I believe emotional intelligence is many things but it involves empathy, COMPASSion, social skills ( which is hard for introverts I get it ), self awareness and social awareness. Social awareness is a hard one because it's about paying attention to the world around us and how the people in it are going about their every day business. Can you influence them? Can you set the tone for any interaction you have with a group of people? Of course, there is more to social awareness, but this is a great place to start. As the name suggest, are you socially aware? 

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