Pessimism is a negative mental attitude and the interesting part about pessimists is, they only attack worthy targets.
They don't waste their time on other pessimists.
In a moment I will show how you can deal with pessimists so you can start living up to your true and fullest potential but first, let's look at a few things in more detail.
Why do pessimists attack worthy targets like you? Well, why would someone bother attacking someone else on the same pay grade as them, there’s no envy or fear. They’re not intimidating.
Pessimists are not very hopeful either, they show very little optimism and are generally very difficult to associate with because they are like a dead weight and the pessimists, I have known throughout my life all have one thing in common.
They are lazy, they are uninspired and they're quitters and because they have checked out of life, they will always do their best to convince you to do the same. So why would they bother? Well, that’s the easy part.
You’re a worthy target.
A pessimist will always tell you one or all of these things at least once when you’re doing something extraordinary, extra ordinary:
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You can’t do that
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That’ll never work
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What gives you the right?
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You’re not qualified enough
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You don’t have what it takes
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It’s oversaturated
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It’s been done before
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No one will buy it
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No one will like it
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You don’t have the recourses
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You’re not good enough
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How dare you
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It’s too late
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You’re too old
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You’re not smart enough
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You don’t have enough money
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Who do you think you are?
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Get a real job
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You’re dreaming
None of these are actually true, especially coming from a negative naysayer who hasn’t been where you’re going trying to convince you to give up chasing your own hopes, dreams, goals and ambitions.
What you’re doing reminds them of how lazy and weak willed they are, you haven’t given up whereas they have. They don’t want to see you win, achieve or succeed because that means you’re happy and losers hate seeing winners win. It’s as simple as that.
You need to look past the insults to your intelligence and realise it is actually not personal.
It’s a reflection of their limiting beliefs and has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you can achieve, what you’re setting out to achieve. I know as much as anyone how taxing it can be on your mental health which is why you should consider eliminating the dead wood in your circle.
You need to develop thick skin on your path to extraordinary, which isn’t easy, I get it. The first people to reveal themselves as pessimists are usually people in your circle, family members, colleagues or people you know well.
They know where you’re coming from and they know your back story so when it comes time to level up in the game, they’re going to do their best to knock you down.
It’s what they call “the bucket of live crabs mentality”; if they can’t do it, you can’t either and they’ll do their best to pull you back down into the bucket with all the other crabs.
It can be disheartening when someone you know well tries to pull you back into the bucket. You would think that if it’s someone you know well then they should be happy for you, but this simply isn’t the case. If people you know well are doing their best to undermine what you’re trying to achieve or they keep reminding you of where you came from and the mistakes you may have made up until this point, get rid of them. You’re running out of tomorrows, and you don’t have the time or the energy to spare to continue listening to their uninspiring dribble.
Eliminate the dead wood to make room for people who motivate, energise and inspire you to live up to your true and fullest potential.
Next time you hear from one, make sure you thank them for fueling your desire to win, achieve and succeed.
That's all they're good for.
I hope you find this of value, my brothers.
Keep winning!